Chances are, you know someone who oozes confidence. You’re familiar with a man or woman who’s comfortable in their own skin, walks proudly, and understands their worth — and it shows.
Is that person you?
If it’s not, you’re not alone. Men and women around the world suffer from low self esteem, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Studies show that a girl’s confidence peaks around the age of 9, but wanes with adolescence. What if you could recapture that high self esteem from your youth?
Would you ask for that big promotion? Take that next step in a relationship? Let adventure guide you to new and exciting opportunities, rather than letting fear keep you on the sidelines?
The good news is that you can achieve all this and more. Today, we’re uncovering a few key ways high self esteem can change your life, getting you closer than ever before to that confident and assured 9-year-old that’s still inside.
Ready to learn more? Let’s go!
1. Criticism Loosens Its Hold
Criticism has many faces.
Sometimes, it’s constructive, as when a boss gently informs you of holes in your performance that can lead to a stronger outcome when addressed. When given in this context, criticism is often helpful and healthy.
Yet, more often than not, criticism appears as a nasty side effect of low self esteem. It can turn spouses against each other, tear family members apart, and ruin relationships.
At the root of it all? Expectations that are not aligned with reality.
When we lack confidence in ourselves, it becomes difficult to believe in others. As a result, we can create unobtainable ideals that even those closest to us can’t reach.
When you adopt a mindset of high self esteem, you’ll readjust your outlook, giving yourself — and your loved ones — some freedom to make mistakes and still receive love.
2. Stress Becomes More Manageable
According to a recent survey, more than half of working adults are concerned about the levels of stress in their lives.
From deadlines to family obligations and every trigger in between, it can become easy to feel overwhelmed by all we have to juggle.
When we lack confidence in our ability to perform, that weight shifts from merely challenging to all-encompassing and often unbearable.
On the other hand, high self esteem helps us muster the energy and determination to face even the most stressful situation head-on.
An added benefit? We’re able to stave off some of the negative physical symptoms that result from stress.
From headaches and hypertension to libido loss and depression, stress can play a pretty tough role on our bodies, wearing them down to the point of exhaustion.
Choosing to approach stressful situations with self-assured courage and tenacity can turn even the steepest mountain into a scalable molehill.
3. You Can Express Yourself More Clearly
Is there anything in your life you’d like to try if failure weren’t so glaringly an option? Are you itching to say something but aren’t sure how?
The answer doesn’t have to be as dramatic as, “I’d like to attempt skydiving.”
Maybe there’s a broken friendship you’d like to patch, but you aren’t confident enough to try again. Maybe you’re considering a career change, but don’t think you have what it takes to go back to school or start over again in the workforce.
That boulder standing in your way? Most likely, it’s your self esteem.
High self esteem helps you reach for the things you want, ask for what you need, and speak your mind with more surety.
Studies show that many people, especially women in the workforce, are hesitant to negotiate for a better situation. One of the main reasons why? People often have a tendency to focus on the needs of others over their own.
Building high self esteem helps you turn that attention a little more inward, giving yourself the boost you need to make that important first move.
4. Your Relationships Are Healthier
With high self esteem, you not only treat yourself better. You’re also better able to build the healthy, strong relationships you want in your life.
When you’re better aware of what you do and don’t want — and better prepared to articulate those feelings — you attract the kind of positive energy you give off.
As a result, you’re also keenly aware of those relationships that are more toxic than uplifting and are better equipped to remove yourself from them if required.
From abusive spouses to jealous, spiteful “frenemies,” you’ll be able to spot the people whose behavior has been exacerbating your feelings of self-doubt and loneliness.
There’s a direct link between abuse (in all its forms) and low self esteem, though leaving isn’t always as cut and dry as simply cutting off ties.
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, the National Domestic Violence Hotline offers a helpful Safety Plan to guide you toward freedom. Here’s an article that focuses on rebuilding your finances after escaping an abusive relationship, providing tips on budgeting, building credit and getting back into the workforce.
5. Setbacks Don’t Keep You Down
Even with high self esteem, you won’t be immune to all of life’s inevitable ebbs and flows. The reality is that even with all the confidence in the world, you’ll likely still experience setbacks, disappointments, and failures.
The difference? You might get knocked down temporarily, but you’ll have the strength to get back up and keep going.
With low self esteem, even the smallest obstacle can feel like a massive blow. When that’s the case, every day becomes a struggle.
Choosing to face every situation with self-assurance helps ensure that no matter what hand you’re dealt, you’ll bravely accept it.
This also gives you that extra confidence boost you need to leap fearlessly into those big, new, and yes, sometimes scary, unknowns.
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